The Decline of Self-Esteem via Facebook.

Hola Friends. Hola Mujeres- Shout out to the rockin womyn out there. Stay strong, beautiful, and proud. Don't do shit for men(I don't want to sound heteronormative-but due to the past struggles womyn have faced and still face; we can't let men put us down). Well friends, as you all know as creatures of an industrialized & "modern" society, we all suffer from issues. Many people suffer from jealousy/envy, low self esteem, sadness, and much more. Life can be disheartening, and things can be disgruntling. However, we all have to push each other to keep trotting forward. In the midst or racism, classism, war, natural disasters, ageism, homophobia, sexism, war, rape, starvation, homelessness...things can get gray. There's so much hatred and ugliness, but there's also so much beauty! So let's keep each other strong. Let's help each other be positive. I know its hard, shit, for every positive thing I say, 10 other nasty things come out first. But I am writing this, in hopes of healing, in hopes of believing, in hopes of being happier. We all have tons of goals, tons of things to do...but we can always try to be happier despite whatever stage in our life we may be in. So whatever is bringing you down, get rid of it! Get rid of that unfortunate block. So get rid of that television, if those models on tv keep tormenting you. Don't starve yourself. Be healthy. Get rid of that magazine, if those ridiculously photoshopped womyn keep staring back at you. Get rid of that partner, if they are no good to you. Get rid of that phone, if you find unhappiness. The moral is: get rid of that thing that is bringing you down. There are certain things that we may think we need, but we do not! Si Se Puede! We don't need a lot of things, but unfortunately through consumerism and commercials we are made to believe that we cannot live without some of these gadgets. However, we are humans, we are animals, and we can live without some of these unnecessary items. I know its hard, I've been having trouble with getting rid of facebook. But I am finally going to do it. I know it can be hard, but ask for help. Don't do it alone. I'm giving my friend my fb password so I won't cheat and reactivate my profile. I'm getting ready to finally say goodbye. I've had a love/hate relationship with facebook. It's a great tool for staying in touch with upcoming events, parties. It's great for keeping in touch with old friends and for organizing. However, Facebook has also changed the way we communicate with each other. Despite the privacy settings, facebook is very impersonal. People can see what you're doing. I have to say goodbye to facebook, because I hate the way I've become dependant on it. I sometimes check it obsessively! It's ridiculous. Furthermore, I hate the way it makes me feel. I am constantly comparing myself to others...You know how some people are tormented by television, well FACEBOOK YOU TORMENT ME. And I'm through. Through with obsessing over dudes who obviously think little of me. I'm through with comparing myself to my friends who are traveling the world and seem to have everything going so well in their lives. Because obviously everyone has issues, and what sometimes may appear as someone having a great time, can be an individual actually suffering from internal sadness but posting a facade to the world. I'm not trying to make you skeptical of what people post. I'm not trying to belittle the happiness people are having, but just be cautious. Don't compare yourself to your friends, to your fellow mujeres. That's the last thing we need. Our society is constantly creating things to help keep us more connected, but in reality these things are tearing us apart. It's like "oh shit, he did not just add his ex girlfriend." Or it's like "what the hell, why are you talking to that guy on facebook?" See...That just sounds like a whole bunch of drama. And if were generally not down for drama, then why are we keeping these social networks around? Let's talk and have coffee, face-to-face. Let's forget the virtual conversations...Now I know this is not always feasible. Plus the internet is a big tool in our lives, but how bout you keep that info about you and your STD private. Write that shit to your friend in an email. Okay, now I need to check myself, because I've written some pretty outlandish things on facebook, and as I critique facebook, I am here writing on a blog! uff, what a bunch of hypocrisy if you ask me. At least I can acknowledge my hypocrisy. UNLIKE you, you damn "feminist" player, womanizer! Uff. Sorry that was a tangent, obviously I still got some hurt feelings within me. At least I feel better. See, writing helps! Mhhhmm. Healing time. To all those people out there, my friend {jliu} and I got a philosophy: MIND, BODY, & SOUL. You gotta feed those three things & you'll be fine! Mind: Read, Educate yourself, stay current on issues occurring in the world. Body: Exercise, dance, swim, move your body, healthy sex. Soul: Write, make art, hear music, make music, be creative, write poems.

Therefore, I am writing & it is helping my soul! So I encourage you to do things that will help your mind, body & soul!

{eb}